You Are Also the Girl Across the Room

Jealousy is poison and rewiring your perception is tricky. Our perception of ourselves and others is usually all twisted. We look at others and envy what they have. What we don't usually think about is how they envy what you have as well. If we started to appreciate what we already have we would all be able to love ourselves and others a little more.

I got caught up in this cycle of jealousy that everyone else is also caught up in. It's pretty much human nature to want what you don't have. I would walk past other girls and be jealous of the way they put outfits together so seamlessly or how they did their makeup like art. I scroll on social media and become instantly jealous of someone else's physique or how perfect their hair looked. I even got jealous of how other people made content. Some girls just really knew how to create aesthetic content or how to pose just the right way.

This was the summer that everything changed though. I turned my jealousy to admiration for these girls. It's difficult to change your perspective, but it's the best way to stop the negative self talk and to give yourself grace. Cheering others on will feed your soul and make you glow.

Two things happened that made me change my perspective. First, I was walking down the streets of Florence, Italy with Kennedy when we passed two girls. Kennedy overheard one of then say "Oh my gosh everyone here is so pretty!" This struck something different in me. I think it's because we always think these thoughts about others but in a quiet manner where the person in question doesn't even know they are being admired. In this moment, that admiration was exposed and it was interesting knowing that we were the girls that others were admiring.

The second things that happened, was that a Tiktok came up on my ForYou page. Essentially this video came to explain exactly the concept I've been talking about. How we can be in a room full of people and see a girl across the room who you think is so put together and stunning. Well put this into perspective:

For her, you are the girl across the room.

She sees you and thinks about how beautiful you are and admires your traits.

So next time you find yourself in the loop of jealousy, try to turn it into admiration and remember that you are the girl across the room, on the other side of the screen, or walking past on the street. Then watch how this positive flip of perspective helps you glow and become your next level higher self.