Sometimes Fantasy isn't a Reality

I've touched on this before, but growing up with books gave me a unrealistic expectation of love and relationships. What has made these expectations worse is growing up with social media. Constantly seeing videos of cute couples doing romantic things for and with eachother can make us expect things of our own partners. But sometimes these fantasies aren't our reality.

First off, plenty of times social media relationships are not all that they seem to be. Everyone wants to portray a perfect life, a perfect relationship, a perfect significant other. What nobody shows is the tears, arguments, toxicity, and hard work that goes into having a relationship. It takes a lot to remember these things when seeing social media. It takes even more effort to be happy for these people in their cute moments and not think about how delusional they may seem.

With all of these effects from pop culture weighing on us, it can take a toll on your relationship. It sometimes takes a toll on mine. Sometimes I expect too much, when in reality not everyone thinks and loves the same way. Sometimes you need to tell your partner how you want to be loved and if they do it right then great! If not, then maybe there are some issues to be addressed. But looking at social media and drawing on lovestories from your favorite books to romanticize your life can be detrimental to your reality. It's has been difficult for me to really think about this concept and internalize the fact that I'll never have a perfect relationship or the relationship of my dreams. Real relationships require work and communication. This year one of my goals is to not let my thoughts get the best of me when I see other couples seemingly thriving on social media. Another goal is better communication. Happy Valentine's Day! xoxo