My Kids Are So Loved Already

I'm glad this topic is becoming talked about more these days but I think we should continue to spread the word about generational healing. The act of working on your past childhood trauma and the trauma that your ancestors/family members lived through is so powerful. I believe we all have a responsibility to our kids and the future generations to break our karmic cycles, heal old wounds, and learn from our parents mistakes to become better.

I think there are a lot of young women out there who’s worst fear is to become their mom. Or at least the worst parts of their mom. I’d love to possess the best traits of mine. No matter what she always did her best to make sure we had everything we wanted growing up. New clothes, the best shoes, and every toy we ever begged for. We lived in a big house, with food on our table, and extracurriculars to keep us busy every night after school. There was so much to be grateful for.

My dad is so hard working. Even today, at an age where he is retired he still works tirelessly to give my mom the life she always deserved. He was the best tennis coach and life coach I could’ve asked for. He even brought us closer to God as a family.

In hindsight I can see how parents try their best and do what they can. It’s their first time experiencing life too. They can make mistakes. But I think it is our responsibility to learn from their mistakes. I used to sit with the fear that I wouldn’t raise my children right. I’d expect too much of them and not give them a safe space to feel their emotions. I figured I grow up to be like my parents. And that scared me. I so deeply want to give my children a different kind of life. One with so much love, patience, and understanding. A gentle childhood.

I think the fact that I had that fear and have decided to act on it though shows just how much my children are loved already. As a woman in her early 20s I am actively working on healing generational trauma. I am healing my own wounds and working to become a more loving and compassionate person. I am choosing who gets to be a part of this journey with me because those people will someday be a part of my kids lives too. It all starts here and now. I am breaking the cycles. My kids are so loved. I hope someday they see that and feel it.