Ghosting Culture Needs to End

At first when I was thinking about what to write for this months post I was going to write about the end of our senior year. How I just submitted my last assignment ever for high school. But within the past two days I quickly changed my mind due to my annoyance over something that has become very prevalent in this time of quarantine but also in the age of social media. Ghosting culture. About a month ago I wrote about how my 18th birthday was going to suck during quarantine. But in the end it was one of the best birthdays of my life. Since we couldn't go clubbing we decided to do the only other thing a teenage girl might want to do on her 18th birthday. We decided to look at hot guys on Tinder. This started the best and worst month ever. It was so much fun getting to giggle over attractive guys and scream when you got a match! After chatting with a few, you move onto Snapchat and get to know these guys and see if they could possibly lead to more. Because even though we would never admit it, deep down we still hoped at least one guy would be the one. And then I thought I had actually found him. Out of all the matches I ended up actually liking one. He was a combination of all of my favorite book male characters. But in the back of my mind I always remembered that each of those book characters were also toxic assholes that the main character fixed. In real life they cannot be fixed. They are just toxic assholes who know exactly what to say and use their looks to their advantage. So as we all know this story will not have a happy ending. We talked over the span of the whole last month. That's not just like the few days you talk to a guy and then drop him. A month is actually a long time, especially in quarantine. We even argued as if we were already dating and made plans for the dates we'd go on when we could meet. It upsets me to say that I sadly caught feelings. That is embarrassing but true. He had even mentioned that we were "talking" now. Every time I had doubts, he had reassured me about how "into me" he was. Two days ago we were still talking like normal, and if anything going stronger than ever. Then yesterday he snapped me with a "Morning" and not even a few hours later by the time I had woken up he had blocked me and unmatched me from tinder. I had been ghosted. With no explanation at all. What bothers me is the fact that I got no closure and how out of the blue it was. He messed with my emotions and I'm so angry at him for that. This kind of thing should not be allowed. But it is way too prevalent in our society today. I think about all the girls who this has happened to and it is honestly scary that someone may not be as strong, or in a tough place in their life, and being ghosted could ruin them. Imagine thinking you finally found the light at the end of the tunnel only to be ghosted and trapped with your thoughts. The worst being "what did I do wrong?" when you did absolutely nothing wrong. Of course guys will never understand how wrong it is and the aftermath of their actions because it is all about the power trip. I have decided I will not be going on Tinder or the other dating apps I use for a while, if ever again. The fact that I could be ghosted again is too much for me because I hate to waste my time on assholes. At least the bright side of this experience has been the fact that I want to make sure he sees me again. I am motivated to become someone successful someday. Someone in the public eye so that he will see me. And he will know what he missed out on.